What if losing is the path to finding?

I experienced a life-altering change.

I walked away from the church. Well, the institutional church as I know it. Not long after, I left my business.

I had connection, familiarity, comfort, and security in those two institutions. Then-they-were-GONE - almost at the snap of a finger, I experienced a significant change.

Has that ever happened to you?

You think something will be one way forever (or you hope it will be), and then it drastically changes.

Have you lost a business or job you depended on?
Have you lost a relationship?
Have you lost a partnership?
Have you lost assets?

Change is hard—no two ways about it. If you have multiple decades on this globe, you know what I’m say’n.

I tried holding on to what gave me identity, security and self-worth (or what I thought did). Even though I wanted to let things go, it wasn't easy because I didn’t know anything else.

The thought of loss was the worst possible outcome. Until I experienced and let go. Now I believe loss is the path to finding life.

Loss is the best catalyst for change. And change is the pattern of life. Whether we like it or not.

Losses, change, and disruption often shake us from false perceptions, beliefs and systems that don't truly serve us.

That's what happened to me. I held so tightly to the business, perceptions, and ego that loss, suffering, and shaking were the path to freedom.

Anybody experiencing significant change here, here are a few words of advice:

1. Don’t try to control what you can’t control

2. Let go and let it develop your character

3. Change is inevitable, lean in

It's easy to look back at the "old" when faced with the new. It’s easy to regret. My encouragement is to face forward and take the next step. It's tempting to go back to what you know. Embrace the new season presenting itself.

In a new or challenging season, it's good to adopt these mindsets:

1. Becoming a learner again - it's good to be a novice and operate from curiosity because the world constantly changes.

2. Rework your beliefs - do you know why you believe what you believe, about faith, work, and relationships? Mine have shifted a lot.

3. See the intense abundance around you - we live in a world of lack, but the truth is that a perspective of abundance notices how much we truly have.

4. Let change have its full effect - change takes time. Don’t rush. Also, don’t fall into self-pity.

5. Let your story become your mission - whatever you've experienced is hard-fought and hard-won. Get your "money's worth" and allow that to shape how you serve others (e.g., a simple email like this).

Loss, change, and shifts aren't a net-negative. They bring new purpose, belief, gratitude, and richness of the human experience -- if you let it be so.

Here’s my note for you this weekend. ;)

Much love,

C

p.s. I’m excited to share about new projects and things I’ve been working on with you soon. 😉 

p.s.s. I’m gonna talk more businessy stuff too 😃